Thank you so much Allison for these very practical steps. As a British Black man I have many friends and relatives that I have not yet addressed on the topic of racism. As you observed, many of these are people I know and love and would sense their loss by removing them from my life. However, I realise for my own psychological health, I need to ensure that I surround myself with people who will not continue to inflict injuries on me.

I remember considering similar steps with my mother-in-law as her alcoholism was becoming destructive. Telling her that she could not see her grandchildren unless she change was one of the hardest things my wife and I had to do. It is this tough love that may be the catalyst for change in someone who treasures their relationship with you over their racist behaviour.

Looking through these steps, it is clear that these can be applied to other forms of discrimination and prejudice, such as sexism/misogyny and homophobia, etc.

Thank you once again